1) Its ok to go to sleep angry. Some things just aren't going to be resolved in one conversation;
2) appreciate each others roles and responsibilities. No matter how you feel, you DON'T do EVERYTHING;
3) Thank each other for all the big and little things you do for one another;
4) model the respect and love you desire your children to have in a relationship;
5) cherish every moment, even the moments of insanity, you'll look back one day and be proud you got thru them together;
6) never give up or give in. Ever;
7) make time for each other, even if its date night in. Play cards in bed, be sneaky, hide from the kids and share dessert together;
8) share inside jokes or secrets;
9) leave random notes or send texts of love;
10) compliment each other, right out of bed, stressed, in the moments of chaos make eye contact and just smile, be an amazing team;
11) put the phones down, dont overlook or miss out on whats right in front of you.
Now the question I had about question one. I asked if even when they were angry if they still said "I love you" when they went to bed? This question is important to me because it is the advice I give to every couple whose wedding I officiate ---- Never go to bed without saying "I love you." I officiated their wedding so I was interested if they followed my advice. This is Stephanie's response.
"Of course. Anger or frustration doesn't stop you from loving someone. I really just think taking a break and revisiting a topic on another day with a fresh mindset can be beneficial." I couldn't agree more !! Quite often after a good night's rest and tension calmed the issue or issues just seem easier to resolve.
Thanks for allowing me to share this Stevie (our family name for Stephanie). I love you and Chris. You are a great example to your children, myself and others. You have had to overcome significant challenges that many couples never face and the two of you did it. You are both a shining example of how to love and work together as a team.